How Can We Heal?
“You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we're not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power." Louise L Hay
- the process of making or becoming sound or healthy again.
- alleviate (a person's distress or anguish
- correct or put right (an undesirable situation).
'When I heal myself, I heal others around me. The joy I feel in my healing is radiated out to everyone around me.'
This affirmation by The Road to Hannah on her Instagram story really resonated with me this week. It's so accurate and it encapsulates such a powerful message. I really believe that working on ourselves is one of the best contributions we can make to this world. There's enough negativity, fear and hate out there, we have no need to continually add to it. By choosing to heal ourselves we are choosing to put more love and positivity into our society. We stop the cycles of intolerance, anxiety, irritation and irrational lashing out and replace them with authentic connection, understanding, empathy and freedom.
How we feel about ourselves directly affects the people around us. And as they say, hurt people hurt people. Healing is a beautiful commitment to move away from the possibility of this. And heal our wounds instead of inflicting more of them upon ourselves and those closest to us.
We are responsible for taking ownership over our lives. If we have healing to do, it's up to us to do it. I know personally, I love being around people who have owned their shit and grown from it. People who recognise the importance of overcoming their adversity, taking the path of the victor not the victim. It's inspiring, enlightening and their whole energy is different. It radiates and oozes from their concrete sense of self acceptance and self love. There's an energy of ease, peace and inner calm. Insecurity and dissatisfaction with ourselves speak out in a different way. They seep into our actions and our interactions, our whole vibe is different. There's more judgement, comparing, overthinking, racing minds of unease which can use their roots of fear and hate to be very cruel both inwardly and outwardly.
Making healing a priority is empowering. It's a revolutionary refusal to settle for a 'poor me' state of mind and instead wholeheartedly embark on the journey of self love, respect and acceptance. A journey that will transform our lives, relationships and experiences.
So how do we heal? I'm going to do this in two parts, (as I've a lot to say on the topic!) so here's my first 4 suggestions.
1. Own it
"The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them". Steve Maraboli
Whatever has happened has happened. It doesn't matter, what matters is what we do about it. Complaining about it, using it as an excuse or licking our wounds instead of letting them heal is not going to help. We need to own where we're at right now and accept it. You've got to feel it to heal it. No more numbing the pain or avoiding dealing with it. Right now is the time to take ownership over our lives and accept the responsibility of changing it for ourselves. People can change, people can recover, people can become completely free from old hurt and issues. But not without acknowledgement and acceptance of how we are in the present. We need to own our behaviour and actions regardless how uncomfortable they may make us, denial and dishonesty is not going to fly on this journey.
“The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.”
Outside perspectives, experience and suggestions are powerful contributors to our journeys. Absolutely cultivate a supportive mindset too and harness habits that support your needs. Self care and kindness towards yourself greatly support this journey. Consider any other healing process and think of what helps - maybe rest, gentleness, nourishment, space, time, guidance, assistance - these will support this journey greatly. You don't have to try and heal alone. And there is admirable strength and courage in asking for help.