Showing posts from September, 2017

Belonging: Brave the Wild

Thought for today: "Step out from behind the barriers of self preservation and brave the wild" ~ BrenΓ© Brown Relieve yourself of the restrictions of saving face, avoiding vulnerability and attempting to 'fit in'. We expend so much energy trying to​ dodge discomfort in these ways that we're actually keeping ourselves stuck. Get into it, get real and raw and open to life. Let the guard down and ditch all the attempts to be something you're not. Trying to protect ourselves from uncomfortable emotions and experiences is not helping us, it's just denying our own humanity, the validity of our authentic emotions and the person we truly are. Embrace the imperfect self that's living behind that barrier. Let yourself be seen. We're not all meant to be robots or replicas of each other. We're here to be human, to live humanely and to enjoy that experience. Exactly as we are, we belong here as much as any other human. Belonging does not require us to bu

Cultivating Kindness: Accept Compliments!

Treat compliments as gifts. People are not obligated to say nice things to us, so when they do, take note! Without thinking, we often dismiss compliments, we don't believe them to be true and we reject what they say. How kind is that..? Compliments can build us up and make us feel good, it's time to start treating them as truth. On wonderful advice, I actually used to keep a notebook of compliments I received. This gave me the opportunity to take them on board, be grateful for them and read over them when a reminder was required that I'm not all bad 😊 Compliments are valuable, beautiful, and very kind things definitely deserving of our attention and appreciation. From now, begin to enjoy and believe in the compliments you're given. And if you're really feeling kind, start dishing them out too 😊

Cultivating Kindness: Find Your Way to Compassion

“Most unhappy people need to learn just one lesson: how to see themselves through the lens of genuine compassion and treat themselves accordingly.” —Martha Beck "Feeling compassion for ourselves in no way releases us from responsibility for our actions. Rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that prevents us from responding to our life with clarity and balance.” —Tara Brach When we're used to beating ourselves up or putting ourselves down, compassion is likely lacking. But if we want to start responding to ourselves and our lives in a kinder way, compassion is going to be key. We need to create a new path, one that is built on self-care, forgiveness, understanding and self-respect. A path that doesn't lead to negative self talk and criticism, one that is free of judgement and poor self image. It may be one we haven't gone down before, maybe a little overgrown and unknown, but it's ours to nurture, it's ours to shape and establish. Learning to be compa

Cultivating Kindness: Commit to Credit πŸ“

Throughout the day, how much attention do we give our achievements or accomplishments? How often do we give ourselves​ credit for how we've gotten through, handled situations and overcome stresses? Instead, I think we sometimes focus more on what went wrong or mistakes we've made. If we were to actively write a list of things we can give ourselves credit for, imagine the boost we could feel. Bit by bit the credit adds up to build us up, to acknowledge our positive abilities, to transform our outlook into one that focuses on how well we're doing instead of constantly putting ourselves down. We cultivate a supportive, rewarding mindset rather than one run by a harsh, negative critic. So today let's create more kindness by beginning to give ourselves the credit we're due 😊

Project Kindness

September often instilled a somewhat unsettled feeling for me. The theme of change that Autumn brings just kind of made me yearn for a shake up, something different, a dabble of change. Maybe it's the habitual new start that the time of year signified through schooling, maybe it's the transformation throughout nature, I don't know. But I love it as a time of year for this; for its transient nature, its colourful expression, its demonstration of letting go. Here in New Zealand, we're actually coming into Spring instead. Another time of change, but this one more synonymous with growth, beginnings​, new life. This season feels like the precursor of change. This time is perfect, regardless what season we're calling it, to lay our very own foundations of change. The specific change I want to cultivate is one of more conscious kindness. Kindness is generally quite a valued quality, we like to think of ourselves as kind and we'd aim to be kind to others too. But I

Freedom of the Fjord

The twinkle drop rainfall tattooed my mind in smiles,  Its dynamic dance decorates this canvas of grey Come what may, here, we're reminded to embrace, instead of endeavouring to erase, To partake, in our own powerful and  personal dance,  To step into our unique authentic stance, We're called to overflow into who we are, Reviving our being with vitality and vigour An empowered roar of contentment - the welcome trigger - to boldly cascade rather than fade, to stand tall, feel strong & validate the self we have made. Rainy days on the fjord freeze my toes and warm my soul - entirely majestical;  Lovingly lost within my stormy surrounds, Senses alive with nature's dark yet dulcet sounds, I'm awake, connected, engaged,  Though the sky lays laden with the remnants of rage, The mountains breathe water; a network of veins, valiantly pump throughout each range, Their exhale, a water bird diving into the body of sea, carefree -  A reminder of how we can be