'Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change', Jim Rohn
It's somehow already mid-September and change is undoubtedly in the air. Autumn has beautifully announced its arrival in an artistic splatter of colour, carpeting the ground in leafy gold and allowing nature to let go of the old and prepare for the new. Which, in less flowery terms, essentially means; the chapter of summer is well and truly over and it's time now to embrace change.
Change is a big topic. And while it can potentially be scary, daunting and uncomfortable, it also has the capacity to be an exciting, recharging and extremely helpful undertaking.
Having been so fearful of the concept of it before, I've learned to love it now. I welcome it, continually want it and feel that it's a necessary thing for each of us to embrace if we want to get the most out of our experience.
We're not made to live in boxes walled by rules and restrictions. We're not here to do the same sh*t day in day out and call it a life. For me, we're here to grow, move, impact and become the people we want to be in a life we love living. None of that is possible without change.
Here's what I've learned about it so far:
'The secret to change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new' Socrates
Change asks that we move forward. It's a step away from ruminating and regret and offers a brand new platform of possibility. We don't need to look back and berate ourselves with the 'should've, would've, could've's - what we actually need from ourselves is to see where we'd like to move toward. There's such an abundance of opportunity lying ahead of us that we'll just miss if we keep trying to fix things from the past.
What changes could we make now to create the new things we want? What could we start doing differently to move away from staying stagnant? This is where our energy needs to go if we want anything to change in our lives.
'If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading', Lao Tzu
If we want anything to change, we need to tune into where we're genuinely at right now. I believe change demands self awareness and a serious dose of self honesty. If we're in denial about our situation or keep telling ourselves that the way we're living is 'Fine', then that's exactly how it's going to remain. I think we need to show up for ourselves and become aware of what really isn't fine right now, what isn't serving us and what we don't need to keep clinging on to. This is a choice. Of course we can stay the same, we can keep barely getting by and staying in our box. But personally I'd prefer to change direction and chase something better.
'If nothing changes, nothing changes.'
If we want and need change in our lives, we need to be making the difference that makes the difference.We can declare our desire for change all we like but if we're not actively committing to change, then we are absolutely not going to get it. It's easy to complain, it's easy to make fleeting promises to get our lives together but if we're talking more than we're doing, we're essentially lying to ourselves. Change is an active process. It requires taking responsibility for how we feel and the experience we're having and choosing to do something about it. And yeah, this is not so easy. Maybe that's why it's so worth it though, because it pushes us to move forward and to nourish our lives in ways that we haven't before. It teaches us to grow through things instead of get overwhelmed by them. It allows us to overcome fears and embrace new challenges.
'When something feels off, it is' Abraham Hicks
This one may be a more personal one, but I've found that the need for change is an innate feeling for me. I've discovered that when I need to change something in my life, I get agitated, uneasy and have itchy feet. It may be that I'm getting too stressed or overwhelmed or am deficient in self care. Whenever I've found that something is off, I know that change will likely remedy it. Maybe changing the way I'm speaking to myself, the way I'm doing things or just a little shake up in my routine. I think listening to signals is a great help in implementing change in our lives. Listen to the signals, to what doesn't feel right, to what's not okay. In relationships, work, hobbies, internally - listen to what isn't sitting well with you and hear the signal for change.
'Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous in the end' Robin Sharma
Change is a process, it can be made up of a multitude of little steps but they all work together to make it happen. Even if some of these steps go a little bit backward, we can always start moving in the right direction again. It can of course be challenging initially and it does kick us out of our comfort zone (which can be an uncomfortable nuisance sometimes) but yes it is entirely gorgeous and worth it in the end. If we really want it, we can make it through the tricky bits and persevere until we get to where we want to be.
'If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies'