The picture shared on our Facebook page today inspired this one. The concept of 'under thinking' is probably fairly foreign to many of us. With over-active, over-analysing, over-thinking and overly anxious minds, we're used to our thoughts exhausting instead of empowering us. So while we're fluent at second-guessing, ruminating and panicking, the language of simplicity might ironically be more tricky to translate.
The idea of under-thinking means stopping ourselves. It means honestly listening to ourselves. It means ignoring the 'what ifs', and the 'should/could've/would've's. You know all the words, questions and fears that distract us from what we really want - the ones that are experts at creating problems and making us feel bad about ourselves. Those are the ones that we need to stop. Under-thinking means that we don't end up tumbling into that tunnel of thoughts, we simply take the ones that we need.
So how do we do this?
Quite often, one of the best things we can do for ourselves is get out of our heads and into our bodies. Feel. Get in touch with your gut feeling, your heart, what's inside. What is it telling you? What is it screaming out for? If you were simply to respond to it, what would you do?
Contrary to what we may believe, we're not smarter than our feelings, we're not 'too intellectual' to engage in them. Sometimes we need to just shut up, listen and give ourselves what we need.
This means, if you want something, you ask. If you miss someone, you call. If you want to express something, you say it. If you're hungry, eat. If you're tired, rest. If you want to cry, you don't need to justify it, you just need to get the Kleenex out and have a damn good cry.
Written like that, it seems so obvious, so clear - but how often do we hear these feelings and begin to launch into a lecture of - 'no we can't ask for that because then people will think we're stupid or we don't get it and we'll just be annoying them. We probably should know the answer anyway but we're actually just thick and can never remember anything. So we'll have to try to figure it out by ourselves even though it's stressing us out and we're getting nothing done.' Just shut all that up and ask! That's annoying even to read, but that's the sort of thinking we let run riot in our minds all too often.
All of these simple desires and needs merely want to be fulfilled, not questioned, doubted, or disputed. Forget about weaving a tale of reasons not to; just listen up, act accordingly and you'll begin to feel better.
2. JUST DO IT
Look, we've all heard it - Life is short. I'm sure at one stage or another we've all probably given that fact some thought and wanted to get really proactive within our lives and accomplish all our goals. And then we'd begin to think... and unnecessarily turn our energy from action to analysis. Quashing spontaneity and opportunity, our thoughts can talk us out of so many of the things we dream of doing.
But it's worth remembering occasionally the fact that yes, life actually isn't going to wait around for us to make up our minds or stop making excuses. It's not going to sit back while we over-think every potential option and outcome and whether we're ready or able for it. So maybe it's time to finally get out of your head and get into your life. What's the worst that can happen?
3. BE PRESENT
We can quickly lose ourselves in our thoughts of the past and the future. Allowing anxiety and regrets toss their two cents onto our every move can leave us stuck standing still. Be present. Take on the moment that you're in right now and just be in it. Don't lose it to one you've already experienced or one that hasn't even happened yet - these are not tangible parts of your life right now. Take this moment and become aware, become mindful of it. Be completely part of what is going on. Feel it, breathe it, enjoy it. You'll never get it back so give it the attention it deserves.
~Overthinking creates problems that aren't even there. It takes us away from the moments, the feelings and the desires that we could really be connecting with. We can't control everything in our lives, regardless how much we analyse it or turn it over in our minds so we need to simply let go. Trust your gut and turn your brain off turbo.
At the very least, it's worth a try :)