Wednesday, 29 October 2014

Listen Here to our latest Radio Interview : From the Viewpoint of a Parent and a Sufferer

A huge thank you to LMFM for having two of our inspirational members on the show yesterday afternoon . Dympna & Andrea share their personal experiences with Eating Disorders, Self Harm & Suicide from the viewpoint of a parent and of and of a carer.

Please click here to listen to the interview in full :

http://utv.vo.llnwd.net/o16/LMFM/2014/10/28/LateLunch281014.mp3

Always remember Full Recovery and Full Freedom is possible for all of us






Wednesday, 22 October 2014

Learning from Don Ritchie

This man is reported to have saved at least 160 people from committing suicide at the cliffs near his house. His name was Don Ritchie (he passed away in 2012). What he did was simple. He spoke to people. He offered them a cup of tea. 

The cliffs at the mouth of Sydney harbour have long acted as a magnet to those who have lost all hope. He would calmly ask if there was anything he could do. 

We know it's not as simple as that. Suicidal thoughts don't just poof away because someone offers you tea. But what this man demonstrated is the power of talking, and the power of small acts of kindness.




When a person is in that very dark space, you'd be surprised how strengthening a small gesture can be. Never forget the power of the simple things. If it takes the person's mind off their despair for even 5 minutes then it's worth the effort.

Is there someone in your life who could do with a few words of kindness, or a simple cup of tea?


Sunday, 19 October 2014

Autumn Love

I love Autumn. It's my favourite season. I know it can rain a lot, it starts getting colder, and it's really no fun waking up when it' still dark out. But that makes me more determined to prove to you how wonderful Autumn is. 

So in no particular order, I give you ten reasons why 
Autumn is the best season:

1. The colours


2. Spiced flavoured things


3. Snuggly clothes


4. Leaves


5. Collecting conkers


6. Crisp Autumn air


7. Fires


8. Halloween


9. Sparklers


10. Pumpkins


Friday, 17 October 2014

Get out of that Rut

Sometimes in life, we get stuck. All of a sudden we can get swamped by a feeling of apathy and boredom towards life, questioning what the point of it all is or why we’re not progressing as we expected ourselves to. I know I’ve been there and caught myself looking around with no clue as to how I’ve gotten here, my head barely above the ground in a trench of a rut. When did I stop caring about what I want and start selling myself short? What am I actually doing?

Time passes by so annoyingly quickly, quietly gathering speed and shaping our minutes into routines. Without realising what’s happened, the rut has been formed and we tumble head over heels into it, having essentially pushed ourselves in.

It might be a job that’s going nowhere or a relationship that’s become stagnant, something that somewhere along the line became exactly what you don’t want, yet it’s become a part of your everyday life. And you’ve gotten attached to it yet irritated by it, frustrated that it’s not as it should be, and aware that it’s kind of your doing. There’s a reason for it being a part of our lives, but there’s also a point where if it’s no longer serving us, maybe a change is needed.

But how do we take that step out of the rut?

1.     Realise that you are in a rut. Feel the feeling of discomfort and dissatisfaction and don’t trick yourself into thinking it’s ok or ‘it’ll do’. Feeling stuck is an itch you have to scratch, it’s a signal you need to listen to.

2.     Don’t settle, and don’t ever sell yourself short. Know your worth and adjust your choices accordingly. Think about whether this is good enough for you, can you be ok with just ‘getting by’ or is there more for you out there? You deserve more, whether you believe it or not, think about what you think others deserve and personalise it.

3.     Find alternatives, think things through. How can you make this better? There is always a solution, even if it’s not immediate.

4.     Realise that change can ignite fear and be ready for that. Don’t let that fear outweigh your desire for change or you’ll stay stuck. Stand up to it, own your decision because you know it’s right for you.

5.     Think of the benefits of leaving the rut versus the heaviness of staying put. Sometimes it’s more comfortable to stay in it, because it’s familiar and it’s an uncomfortable comfort zone, where it’s safe albeit unsatisfactory. But there is so much more life outside that comfort zone, I promise.

6.     Know that it’s ok for relationships, dreams and opinions to change. Growing up, apart or not at all, are all parts of life’s journey. Embrace the new ideas or values you take on. Trust your gut and don’t berate yourself if where you are isn’t where you wanted to be. Just take the action now and improve what you have.

7.     Think about what you’d tell a friend to do. What would help them? It’s not crazy to be your own friend and actually take the advice!

8.     Let the emotions happen if they need to. Quitting a job, breaking up, moving house, distancing from friends can all be sad occasions, and that’s normal. Be sad, be angry, be whatever you need to be and then let it go and get excited about what’s next.

9.     Put value on your time, is this really good enough for you? How many more months and years do you want to spend in this situation? You can stay static in life, but time will keep on going with or without you. Don’t just be passive in your life, take charge, take control.

10.  Take your time to make the right decision for you. Don’t rush into something else out of fear or the weight of the realisations. The right moves will take thought and time to become clear but they will come.


The great thing about every tomorrow is that they always give a second chance. There are always possibilities and for every new minute you can start fresh. Being in a rut for me saps me of motivation and the zesty energy that I do have for life although it hides away sometimes. And when your resources are down, it might feel like leaving the rut is that bit too much effort. But for each little step, thought and dream you create to move forward, you’ll recharge.

Find out what’s stopping you and show it that when you put your mind to it, you can’t be stopped. 



Thursday, 16 October 2014

Reminder: Evening of Hope

Only 6 sleeps left!

Forgive us for our excitement, but really we can't wait to share with you that life after hopelessness exists. 

Just in case you forgot, our Evening of Hope is going ahead next WednesdayOctober 22nd at19.15 pm in the Skylon Hotel in Drumcondra, Dublin. 

Just turn up and take a seat. There's no charge. Everyone is welcome. 

Don't be shy. We're all in this together :)

See you there! 



Thursday, 9 October 2014

Hope.

Below is a contribution from a fellow Freedom Fighter. A little Hope for your Thursday, or any day :)


Hope. 



I won’t tell you hope is the light at the end of the tunnel,
That feels too cliché for what I wish to relay
That’s not to say it doesn’t ring true
But borrowing words to speak my truth won’t do
I want to impart something real, something you can’t help but feel.
Something inspiring to quash the tiring endless spiel
Of a voice that doesn't belong, has no place in our lives,
And replace it with the hope that can help us survive.

Hope is the fire in my bones that fuelled me to get here,
Pushing me forward even when the path was unclear
When life was fraught with fear, shame always near
Never ok like I tried so hard to appear.

When I didn’t have it I had nothing,
My mind a cavern of hate, I could not abate
my own words of self loathing
Bouncing off the walls, constantly echoing in every limb
And igniting the desire to cause harm upon my own skin.

It wasn’t just once. It wasn’t a phase.
It was a recurrent thought throughout the bad days
It was the escape from a life I didn’t know how to live,
A useless participant with nothing to give.
Unable to cope with the most mundane of tasks
Trying to trudge on with the help of various masks.

Hope is the feet I’m standing on now,
It’s the whisper in my ear that shows me how
It’s the reason I’m still here today and the
Support I need to be able to say, that
It gets better. It gets amazing.
And when you have it, nothing can phase it.
It’s concrete, and it’s abundant. It’s yours for the taking.

At the start, it was an idea. A fragile seed,
Without realising, it became all I’d need,
Beautiful people shared their truths too,
Survivor stories, of how they got through,
Punctuated profoundly with the power of hope
Instilling belief that I’d find my way to cope.

That seed was the potential for me,
The small but significant source of positivity,
It wasn’t days but years that it took to see
Its gradual growth into a whole new me.
Whole being the word I lacked before,
But I can honestly say I’m not empty anymore,
Not lost, nor self destructive nor hating who I am,
Finally able to translate ‘I can’t’ into ‘I can’.






Written by Yvonne




Monday, 6 October 2014

Do you want to contribute to our blog?

Would you like to share your story of hope? We welcome everyone in the quest for suicide prevention so please feel welcome to email us! Nothing is too small. Nothing is wrong.

You can reach us here: survivaloversuicide1@gmail.com




We look forward to hearing from you.