Showing posts from June, 2014

Learning to re-focus

What you focus on grows.

If I were to ask you to focus on something, for example the peacock, your mind would be filled with the image of the peacock and the colour. Your concentration would be directed on the bird. The more time you spent thinking about it, the more your thoughts would develop about the peacock - what it was doing, where it was etc.  More time = more thoughts.  Where am I going with this, you might think?  Well the same principle applies to negative thinking. 
If we slip into the dark abyss of negativity, we may find ourselves plummeting right to the bottom of it. You may think that it happens 'all of a sudden', but it doesn't always. Sometimes the sinking is a consequence of feeding the negativity, nourishing it and letting it grow. When our minds begin to race and the negative onslaught begins, it is usually compounded by more negativity. Which then leads us to the bottom of that dark pool. So how do we stop it?
Simple. Do not feed the negativity.  Do no…

The Ripple Effect - When you Deprive Yourself, You Deprive Others

So my entry is taking a different perspective on suicide, but just as I type that, I think to myself, well, all of our accounts are looking at this topic through different eyes.
The topic of suicide is so close to my heart as it could have taken everything away from me. To me everything is my world as I have come from a place where I felt I had nothing. You see, I am the indirect effect of what suicide. The ripple effect we don't always see or talk about. It nearly took from me my hero, my inspiration, my mentor, my mother and in turn my life. This is a little letter that I wanted to write to her when she was in that dark place. I wasn’t there in that place and time, but if I had the ability to write to her that day this is what I would write :

Dear Mam,
My name is ***********, I am writing to you from a future date, with a plee. Please do not make this decision. There is a future ahead of you. I am your daughter, yes I know they told you that you couldn't have kids, but trust me…

Tuesdays snippets of Inspiration

There are some people I have seen on YouTube over the years that have brought me to tears. They are incredibly inspirational and can be great sources of motivation to be grateful for our own lives. Do you ever think I am so lucky I can see, hear, feel, taste, touch. The simple pleasures we experience in life some people do not have such fortune. I encourage you today to look these people up, even if just to remind you how fortunate you are;

1. Nick Vujicic was born in Melbourne, Australia with the rare Tetra-amelia disorder: limbless, missing both arms at shoulder level, and having one small foot with two toes protruding from his left thigh. Despite the absence of limbs, he is doing surf and swimming, and playing golf and soccer. He went college and completed an a Accounting and Business degree and  He began his travels as a motivational speaker, focusing on teenagers and problems in their lives. Check him out on youtube he is incredible.

2. Jessica Cox suffered a rare birth defect and…

Personal Monday: A Turning Point

I find this quite challenging to write as I dive back into what where my thoughts and feelings not so long ago. I don't know how to put into words the torturous mind game I was playing with myself- where there was no winner besides the malicious voice living in my brain who triumphed by my dark and miserable state. The future seemed unbearable; I was repulsed by my own reflection and life. I believed I had accomplished nothing and I was nothing. Every day was achour, another 24 to live a life I desperately wanted to escape, leaving behind no trace of myexistence. I couldn't bare to see the pain in my mams eyes when she was around 'me'. All she wanted was to see me content and well and tried so hard but the only person who could escape me from this state was myself. Yet, I resisted. I didn't are about anything, nothing mattered, I was numb. Total abyss... I believed the voice that told me I had nothing to offer this world. My existence didn't matter so why was I h…
Have you ever heard of a vision board or a dream board?? A vision board is a simple yet powerful visualization tool that manifests your dreams into reality by activating the Law of Attraction (as discussed in the book and filM...The Secret). I can honestly say from my experience that it really works!  It consists of a poster of cut-out pictures, drawings and phrases of the things that you want in your life, or the things that you want to become. Of course it can also be done as I have done myself on an iPad. There are plenty of apps, I love the wish board app. Some examples include: pictures of places you would like to travel, your favorite car, dream man/woman, health goals, your career goals, inspirational quotes, pictures of friends and famiy, hobbies, really anything that you love and that inspire you.  The idea behind this is that when you surround yourself with positive images of who you want to become, what you want to have, where you want to live and the things you are grateful f…

Can you believe it's the weekend again already!?

Ok, so the sun is meant to be hiding again this weekend, but that doesn't mean we have to hide along with it!! There are plenty of things on around the city if you live in Dublin, or you could take a trip up to the big city smoke!?

Movies, for example, can be great therapy. Bad neighbours is a very easy watch and more importantly will have you laugh a lot out loud. We sometimes can take life sooooo seriously but laughing can be such an anxiety and stress reliever. If bad neighbours is not your cup of tea there is 22 jump street or a million ways to die in the west. Anything that is light will help.

What about a trip to the zoo? You don't have to have young kids or a love of animals to check out the local zoo in your area. It could be fun!!

A trip to the markets with a friend can be a good pick me up. The tendency can be to isolate when we feel low but actually in these situations reconnecting with a friend, getting a coffee, pottering around the local market with different typ…