Showing posts from May, 2014

It's The Weekend SO Let's Have Some Fun

With the weekend now officially upon us, it's time for a little fun. 

As simple as it sounds, the word "fun" perhaps brings a little pressure when we aren't feeling so great about life but the thing to remember about the idea of fun is that is completely unique and always lies in the most simple of things.. What I might find fun you may consider boring and torturous and visa versa but in finding what it is we ourselves find fun we open our lives to so much happiness..
So without further a do, here are some simple things that might possibly bring a little fun to your weekend..
Go on a photographic walk somewhere you love and take lots of photos of the beauty around you..
Have an afternoon tea party for you and your friends..
If the weather is nice, there's no where more fun than going (to see your family at) the zoo.. Just kidding, but really it is the perfect way to spend some time getting lost in the wonders of the world..
Pretend you're a tourist in your o…

Random Facts

Some more random information for the day ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~  You share your birthday with at least 9 million other people A 99-year old man divorced his 96-year old wife after 77 years of marriage because he discovered she had an affair in the 1940s A group of kittens is called a kindle. A group of hedgehogs is called a prickle, and a group of bunnies is called a fluffle. Dalmations are completely white at birth The most popular male dog names are Max and Jake. The most popular female names are Maggie and Molly. Jellyfish have lived in the oceans for more than 650 million years, long before the dinosaurs. A cat’s heart beats nearly twice as fast as a human heart, at 110 to 140 beats a minute. Did you know penguins can hop?? View the link below to see the proof ! Love Dare To Live SOS

Everyone Deserves Help

Why do we often find it difficult to ask for help ? Do we feel like it undermines our ability to cope? Is it our pride ? Fear of rejection? Not wanting to put people out or be a burden? Isolating ourselves? Feeling it is a sign of weakness and offering yourself up as being vulnerable? Most people can probably relate to some of these statements at one stage or another. A lot of the time when we suffer with low self esteem, depressive feelings or any other mental turmoil we are often reluctant to accept or even ask for help. We often want to help everyone else except ourselves and love when other people ask us for help, it makes you feel good- so why cant the favour be returned? It is in a way hypocritical to help others but refuse to accept help off them in return don't you think?So legalising accepting help is the key. To overcome these thought patterns we must first learn to change how we think. Some ideas that could help is to remind yourself: - You don't burden someone wh…

There is life after feeling suicidal

A topic that has come up for me for a lot of reasons lately is suicide. There seems to be a lot of discussion about people who have committed suicide and why. Is this helpful though? Do questioning motives really help anybody? Don't get me wrong,I do not wish to offend anyone, suicide, like any death is a devastating tragedy. However, we hear so much about the pain that person must have felt , how they felt like they had nowhere else to turn,no other option,no other way and in my opinion this doesn't help anyone who is feeling suicidal in any way nor does printing statistics on such matters. Again,this is just my opinion, but what about hearing about the people who attempted suicide but are still here? Does that not offer us more hope than being confronted by the thoughts of the sadness of the people that are left behind? What about the people who are carrying on with their lives after a failed attempt and are extremely happy? What about the people who have went on and created …

Personal Monday: The feeling will pass

~~~~~~ I have experienced suicide in different areas of my life. Both first hand within myself - having thoughts or fantasising about it and then being affected second hand where it has happened to family members / friends. I think for me, having an eating disorder has been at the core of these destructive thoughts- I noticed that I never really had suicidal thoughts(or at least proper ones) until I was in the debts of the condition. I may have played around with thoughts but they then started to become real, possible solutions to all my problems. Now,  from working on myself through recovery I have learned that these thoughts are very common among sufferers of ED. Malnutrition has a huge affect on your mood and therefore depression and low mood in most cases goes hand in hand with this condition.  It was always in the back of my mind that if all else fails, if i don't recover from this and things don't work out this is my escape, i always have this option where I just wouldn…

Randy Pausch and The Beauty Of A Dream

As individual as we all are, one of the things that every single human being has within them is a dream of some kind. An aspiration or goal, plan or ambition to be realised with the self belief that anything is possible if we have the courage to believe so..
It isn't always easy to find that self belief though, nor is it as uncomplicated as we might wish at times but if you do one thing this week please be open to watching this video we share with you today. The Last Lecture' by Randy Pausch may be long but trust us, in the search for some inspiration and motivation to accomplish your own dreams (of childhood or now) and gain some reason to live a little more these 76 minutes will inevitably plant a seed of hope and light in your heart..

(If you find it difficult to concentrate or a busy schedule won't allow you watch it all in one go, don't stress for that's the beauty of the "pause" and "play" buttons..)
Wishing you all a beautiful Sunday!

A Life Free of Comparison is Something Nothing Can Compare

How often do you feel that your neighbour, your friend, a loved one or simply the stranger on the street (whom in fact you know nothing about) is, in some way, shape or form, better than you? How often do you feel less than because someone else appears to be more successful or generally more apt at this whole thing called life? Well guess what? It's called comparing and as Theodore Roosevelt once wisely and very simply said, "comparison is the thief of joy." 
The ironically funny yet superbly liberating thing to understand about living in a world with billions of other individuals is that we, just like each other, are all completely unique. Just like each other none of us are the same and trying to compete with others is a truly pointless exercise that ultimately blinds us to all the good that lies within and around us. In focusing on others and how we think their lives must be we essentially turn our back on all the good in our own and how great ours actually are.. if …

A little lift for the weekend

We thought a little film therapy might be good this Friday in preparation for the weekend. Movies are a great distraction from the challenges of life.  Here are a few films which we think are uplifting  and good for the soul. Happy viewing!!

Imagine being able to act like you were 13 again.....that's exactly what happens to Tom Hanks in this feel good movie. More than anything, 13 year old josh wants to be an adult, he makes a wish and wakes up the next day stuck in the body of a man. Trying to work out what to do, he takes a job with a toy company and so the fun begins.......

Cool Runnings
There's nothing more uplifting than an against the odds sporting movie. This movie is based on the true story of the first Jamaican bobsled team trying to make it to the winter Olympics. this movie proves that hard work and determination pays off.

The Wizard of Oz
The Wizard of Oz is one of the most charming movies of all time. Dorothy and her dog Toto are caught in a Tornado's path an…

Time For Thursday Randomness

It's time to get Random again! Did you know....

Over 90% of stress is brought on by the act of over thinking.

If you shave a guinea pig, it looks just like a baby hippo.

Friday increases happiness all around the world by 11%

The most children born to one woman was 69 -- She had 16 twins, 7 triplets, and 4 quadruplets. (scary!!)

Laughing at least 10-15 minutes a day keeps you healthy and adds up to 5 years to your life.

There are more than 100,000 chemical reactions happening in the human brain every second.

May 2nd is International Harry Potter day August 26th is International Dog Day!
And to finish off with the randomness, here is a video of a hilarious 'rat prank' from a hidden camera show. You can't help but laugh at the reactions :) And remember laughter improves your health! Enjoy!

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You Belong - Every Drop Makes An Ocean

We are all a part of this place we call Earth whether we like it or not. Everyone has been put here for a reason. Nobody is more insignificant than anybody else. So why do we often feel unworthy ? Don't deprive the world of your presence. Everybody plays an active part in this world. Without you in it it would not be complete just like an ocean would be one droplet short. A lot of the time we tend to put people on pedastals. We compare, feel inadequate, think that they are 'better' than us, more deserving or worthy- but this is an illusion- your own mind just trying to convince you that you are not good enough. That is never true. Nobody is 'better' than anyone else. We are all different and have a purpose, have different values, opinions and interests. If everyone was the same the world would most certainly be a very boring place! We all want to feel we belong. It is one of the things we all as human beings have in common. If you feel out of place in this world …

Inspirational Tuesday: Movies

During times of deep distress, we can become numb to our emotions and feelings. Our eyes won't shed tears, our voice boxes don't vibrate with laughter. How do we reconnect with emotions then? How do we begin to feel them again? 
Movies are a great source of knowledge. They can scare you, enlighten you, inspire you, bore you, entertain you, upset you, enthrall you..they can instill just about any emotion in you. When someone initially told me to watch movies as a part of recovery, I thought they were ridiculous. 'Movies?', the intellect snob in me sneered, 'how are movies going to help me?' Oh how unaware I was at the time! Movies are a powerful resource and I encourage everyone to  watch them. They can reawaken emotions that you thought you would never experience like excitement, happiness, fear or shock. They help you to create your own opinions about what you liked or disliked about the film. They force you to escape from your own thoughts for an hour or two. …

Personal Monday: The Importance of Others

The following is my recollection of the worst day of my life. It helped begin an important process and it is now a part of my story that I am ready to share. It was Saturday afternoon. I was clearing tables in the café in which I worked. I'd been working there part-time since January and things had got progressively worse as the months had passed. I now knew only dark days. There was no light. I had almost forgotten how to smile. My father and two close friends were the only individuals with whom I was capable of spending any length of time and this was only made possible by the fact that I felt I could cry freely in front of them, which I invariably did.  Anyone else's company was a form of torture. I had to pretend I was listening to their news, feign interest in what they were saying, nod, smile, laugh and express enthusiasm about suggestions of activities in which I would later create an excuse not to partake.  Looking back now, I can remember very little of the year up t…

A Dream Filled Sunday

As someone who loves the wisdom of an inspiring and motivating quote and in light of my belief that dreams require daily work to be truly LIVED, today I share with you some of my favourite quotes on the very topic that is so essential to a life of love, laughter, positivity and LIVING..
“Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.”  - Lao Tzu
“It takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else. ”  - Erma Bombeck
“In dreams, we enter a world that's entirely our own.”  - J.K. Rowling
“I dream my painting and I paint my dream.”  - Vincent van Gogh
“Dreams are necessary to life.”  - Anaïs Nin

“Sometimes the dreams that come true are the dreams you never even knew you had…

Spontaneous Saturday

The weekend is upon us. Have you anything you have decided to do to add a bit of fun and LIFE to your Saturday? If not, why not try something different? One tip to living a free life is the gift of spontaneity! Many people live by rules, by structure and routine which is all well and good but sometimes it is nice to be spontaneous ! Why not give it a shot? Sometimes the most unplanned random things can be the most fun! Why not go all out and do something completely out of the ordinary for you?
If you like the outdoors or adventure why not take a trip to the coast try a bit of surfing? Go for a hike? or kayaking?
Do you like comedy? Why not invite a friend out to a comedy gig in the city?
Being spontaneous doesn't even have to be doing something major. The simple act of deciding to do something at the last minute is enough. A lot of people panic when faced with something not already on the 'schedule' for the day. (been guilty of that one) Simply a friend suggesting to go f…

Get that Friday Feeling - Get Excited For The Weekend

Well the weekend is here again. For some it is a couple of days off work , for others its like any other days of the week and perhaps something not to be looked forward to. A lot of people 'live for the weekend' and spend the week looking forward to it - to speak the phrase 'TGIF!' Why not you too? Why not use the weekend as something to look forward to and do the things you love? Don't use it as another couple days to berate yourself over everything you 'don't' have or everything that is 'wrong' in your life. Spending the whole weekend in bed isolating yourself from the world isn't the answer- Grace the world with your presence!
Having things to look forward to has a huge impact on your way of thinking. If you have things to look forward to you are less likely to be thinking negatively about life. You have a focus. What can you do this weekend for yourself to make you feel good? What is it you can look forward to this weekend and get ex…

Thursday Randomness; Facts & Fun

Keeping the mind active and alive with positive thoughts and fun facts can never be underestimated! So let's get down to a little Thursday randomness and pump those brain muscles shall we..

Did you know?
Almonds are members of the peach family 
Donald Duck's middle name is Fauntleroy. 
Coca-Cola was originally green. 
A duck's quack doesn't echo, and no one knows why. 

A group of goril­las is called a shrewdness.A group of flamin­gos is called a stand.A group of giraffes is called a tower.A group of uni­corns is called a blessing.A group of crows is called a murder.A group of larks is called an exaltation.A group of ravens is called an unkindness.A group of ferrets is called a business.
111,111,111 x 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987,654,321 
When you sneeze, all your bodily functions stop even your heart.  ..thank goodness it doesn't last long..
Flies jump backwards when they take off. 
The world's youngest parents were 8 and 9 in China in 1910  ..ok this is INSANE.…

Picture Of Life; The Light Within

There is no body in life who escapes the sometimes darker days or moments when the light, seemingly so dim, seems to be nowhere near enough to let us see into the next second of time let alone take us through this one we may feel stuck in right now. In fact there may even be times when complete darkness forever looks to be the only way to the light. I've been there, I understand.
But I also know too that moments pass. As do days and weeks, months and years. No matter how long you find yourself in the darkness I can tell you that upon coming though my own darkened periods and having hung on in the trust and hope that there really is a better life to be lived, it's most certainly worth the fight. I can attest with all my being that there is always, always, ALWAYS a way out of the dark times when life seems to be caving in on top of you. And it's called LIFE. Only life can heal the wounds that hurt and only life and the living of it can cast out the darkness and let the ligh…

Inspirational Tuesday - extraordinary ordinary people

This blog is honest - we know what it takes to take ourselves out of the darkness of destructive thinking and turn towards life. We are not afraid to say things how they are. 
Do you consider yourself to be a victim? Do you think like a victim?  Yes it's true, we become victims of our own thinking. But by dwelling in the negativity we are choosing to remain victims. We may not realise that this is the case, so how do we know if we are choosing to be victims or not? Being a victim is simply continuing to sit on the ground after a fall and not getting back up again. It's choosing to remain down. It's believing that the universe made you fall down and that it's "their fault" you ended up down there. It's listening to the negative whispers goading you, telling you you deserve to remain on the ground. It's not learning from the fall but focusing on the bruises. 
So how can we stop being victims? Every human encounters hardship in their life but the hard t…