3 Ways to Love Being You

'Be Yourself' is one of those well-intentioned cliches offered as advice to us in numerous situations. I remember getting so irritated by it when I was recovering because even though I wasn't even sure who 'myself' was, I was pretty sure I hated her, she was the f*cking worst in my conditioned opinion. The complete disregard I had for myself made being that person the absolute last thing I wanted to do. 

Fast forward to full recovery and freedom and I'm delighted to realise that the only conflict I've felt within myself recently stemmed from thinking I'd potentially 'have to' compromise who I now know myself to be. 

I am finally so happy with being myself and everything that means to me, that not owning and loving that person would now feel utterly unjust. Which my old self might see as big-headed or arrogant, but realistically, if we cannot find a way to own and love who we are, how are we supposed to enjoy this journey of life we are on with our…

The Body

Our bodies are astounding This culmination of systems and cells Muscles and bone in which our soul dwells Is confounding.  They are resilient Tenacious, strong, relentlessly committed to carry on They have all the qualities I admire And yet, I hated on mine for so long.
Our bodies literally and figuratively have our backs Sustaining our breath, our blood, our every function whilst we can simply relax They’re immensely intelligent, steadfast in support,  From mind to membrane they deftly report, the experience of living, How we amass and exhort an understanding of both pleasure and pain Yet how often do we glare at their image, our vision distorted with disdain? How often do we tell them they’re wrong? Too big or too small?  That they should be this way or that? Shorter or tall? Thin and not fat?
My own endured abuse at my hands I would not inflict on any other living being The disrespect, disregard, complete abhorrence wasn’t even fleeting It seemed justified, I felt so strongly about its ‘deserved des…

What are we daring to do next?

If you’ve been following Dare to Live from the beginning, firstly thank you, but also, you’ve likely seen it change and evolve, go through periods of activity and dormancy, represent different experiences and lessons. It’s become something a bit different than what it was set up as and it’s about to undergo another little shift. My intention is to bring more life, activity and connection to this space.

Dare to Live began in Dublin, with an incredible group of individuals who wholeheartedly wanted to encourage survival over suicide (sos). These beautiful people held groups, shared experiences and used this space to inspire others to keep going, to overcome their challenges and to reconnect to the person they truly are.

That group surrounded me with people who get it. They valued a lot of what I value. They saw the importance of saying yes to life, showing up and daring to live even when it’s scary, challenging and maybe even the last thing we wanted to do. That group looked for the light…

How Can We Heal?

“You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we're not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power." Louise L Hay

[ˈhiːlɪŋ] NOUN the process of making or becoming sound or healthy again. VERB alleviate (a person's distress or anguish correct or put right (an undesirable situation).

'When I heal myself, I heal others around me. The joy I feel in my healing is radiated out to everyone around me.'

This affirmation by The Road to Hannah on her Instagram story really resonated with me this week. It's so accurate and it encapsulates such a powerful message. I really believe that working on ourselves is one of the best contributions we can make to this world. There's enough negativity, fear and hate out there, we have no need to continually add to it. By choosing to heal ourselves we are choosing to put more love and positivity into our society. We stop the cycles of i…

5 Ways to Get Sh*t Done

I feel like I could write a post like this every few months! I get so many ideas so frequently, and my passions for a multitude of areas flare up and I consistently have so very much that I want to do. 

And I find sometimes, the more I want to do, the less I actually get done.

I'm sure I've written about this before, because I've definitely felt like this before. But of course, I do tend to revisit the same old lessons, you know, to strongly cement the learning as a new pattern or something progressive like that ;)

There's a lot to consider when we're passionate people feeling strongly about ten different things at once - motivation, resources, priorities, time management etc. I know for me, I find it challenging to balance what's most important, what is calling me loudest and give it sufficient attention, without worrying about what's going to the wayside in the meantime.

So lately, I've been thinking seriously about what exactly it is that I want to do. W…

Word of the Day: Discipline

The word discipline piqued my interest when I heard it in a podcast recently. In the way it was used, I really connected to its sound and meaning, immediately inspiring me to look into it further, to figure out its potential power in creating positive practices in my life. 
The definitions I found on it are not the most appealing and possibly match most people's initial association with the word:
Discipline - [noun] the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behaviour, using punishment to correct disobedience. [verb] train oneself to do something in a controlled and habitual way.
Self Discipline -  the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses. Synonyms: self-control, self-mastery; restraint, self-restraint; will power, strength of will, firmness, firmness of purpose, purposefulness, strong-mindedness, resolution, resolve, moral fibre; doggedness, persistence, determination, tenacity 
These didn't particularly evoke the way in which I re…

If You Could Only See

See How Free You Can Be
If you could only see, See just how free you can be See, how it looks, sounds and feels To be unleashed, into liberty. If you were to cultivate A boundless belief in sufficiency; A you that surpasses all sense of ‘enough’.
A you who emerges from the constraints of ingrained fallacy Rewriting the fictions penned by your affliction of conditions Whose sole function is to keep you small. Restricted. Contained. Silently submissive To the clipped wings of self esteem deficiency, It may seem, impossibly out of reach, But I promise, with this belief, you will see.
If you can fill your speech with accents of affirmation, Your mind with positive, empowering information If you focus your vision on the view of freedom, Reframing challenges into lessons of wisdom, You will, supplement your life with sustained self-support, And this, this is your passport, to a life laden in your limitless dreams And to a you, who is wealthy in the means needed to see What it is to finally be free.
Pic by h…